humanity starts with personal accountability
Humanity and accountability- two powerful words which I believe are inextricably linked. And today, I have been racking my brain trying to think of something that I can contribute, however small, that means anything at all in the light of such human tragedy as what has happened. And of course, there’s really nothing that I could possibly say or write that will make a difference.
The hardest thing for those of us who are blessed to have not been directly touched by such tragedy, is when your kids hear something going on and they ask you “why are those men shooting people mummy?” What can you possibly answer that makes sense to a child? How do you explain what has led people to treat others in this way?
One thing I always try to teach my kids is their own power as a human being and how to exercise personal responsibility and accountability.
You can’t control what others will do to you. You can only control how you react. And no matter what the situation or how much you brain tells you that someone or something has wronged you, you are ultimately in complete control of how much you allow something to affect you.
I have these chats a lot with my daughter, especially when something happens at school with her friends and I hear words like “it wasn’t my fault…she did “x” to me” or “it’s his fault that I did that”. I am trying to help her to practice real mindfulness and tap into that power you have as a human being to choose how you process a situation and what your reaction will be. I want to teach her that whatever anyone does is always about them and things going on in their life. It’s not about you. Do not take anything personally in life.
Once you realise this and you learn how to control your thoughts and your emotions to stop that initial instinctual reaction, you can respond with understanding and love, rather than hostility and anger, and YOU can be the most powerful person in the world.
To me, terrorism or any kind of hate inspired act seems to be based on this extreme lack of personal accountability and responsibility. If you can simply blame another person, a group, a country, a religion or a government or situation for how you choose to act in your life, then you do not fully understand what it is be human and the true power of humanity.
Call it simple… call me an idealist (I would likely agree with both). But I can’t help but think that if every single person harnessed this skill every single day, the world would be a far more peaceful place.
Love, thoughts and prayers to all.