6 reasons you need a kid-free weekend – soon!
We love our kids. They’re really cute and a lot of fun. Does this mean we don’t enjoy time away from them? Not at all. And it was this weekend where we really were in need of a kid-free weekend together.
Much as our kids are gorgeous, they’re also tiring – I know I’m not the first parent to admit that but it still feels completely shameful to write.
But, now…. obligatory guilt aside.
This story focusses purely on the positives of a grown-up weekend away and just how fabulous it can be.
Lovely Hubby and I recently celebrated our wedding anniversary. Naturally, we thought, what better way to celebrate than enjoy a kid-free weekend away. So we packed our overnight bag and headed out into the desert together to the beautiful Bab al Shams Desert Resort.
And even though it was only one night away, I can immediately think of 6 amazing reasons why every parent needs a kid-free weekend – soon!
Tell me what you think:
This is an obvious one but still at the top of the list.
And I’m not just talking about being able to sleep in late in the morning.
We enjoy literally falling asleep wherever we like; on the deck chair after consuming a cocktail; whilst being massaged in the spa; after an exhausting walk to the hotel room; before getting ready for dinner.
In fact, when we came home, Miss Sparky asked what we did for the weekend. When I replied, “hmmm… we slept a lot” she looked at me like there was something wrong with me.
But I think once your kids are removed from your personal space, your brain finally has a moment to settle down. Once it realises it can relax, all plans of fat-bike riding, archery and desert walks go out the window. Suddenly, every available flat surface looks like a great place to lie down for a quick kip.
I think lovely hubby even fell asleep mid sentence at dinner when the plates were cleared and the table suddenly looked like a very inviting place to lay a weary head. I am trying not to be offended…
2. Actual swimming
We go to the pool and the beach a lot here in Dubai. And yet somehow, neither of us seem to swim much.
We are always balancing one child or other off our shoulders. Or helping someone swim. Sometimes even throwing them from one end of the pool to the other while they screech with joy.
What we don’t get to do much is just laze in the pool, swim a couple of laps, float and generally just enjoy the water.
There are a number of spots in the beautiful Bab al Shams pool where you can lie half in the water, half on the warm tiles and just watch the desert bake next to you. Each time we would lie there enjoying the serenity, we’d have to remind ourselves that we don’t need to be watching for what’s about to land on our head or who is about to splash.
We really can actually just lie still and enjoy. Or swim a few laps – whatever and whenever we want. Bliss.
3. Relaxing baths
Lovely Hubby is always on the lookout for a bargain. And whilst he pays the going discount rate for the room, he likes to ensure the resort is aware, at every opportunity, that we are celebrating our anniversary. Notes in the booking, by email, online. Wherever it’s communicable.
And this time, it paid off.
The resort went to the trouble of organising some lovely surprises for us over the weekend including a date and fruit plate, a lovely card and two different occasions of anniversary cake!
But the best thing they did was surprise us in the late afternoon by running a beautiful warm bubble bath complete with candles, rose petals and drinkable bubbles.
We don’t bath very often, and certainly never together. The most recent baths I have had have been with little Chubs: Toys chucked at you; splashing in your face; sitting on toys are all commonplace occurrences. And worst of all… I’m convinced that 90% of the time I’m bathing in his pee. Not a nice thought while you sit in the lukewarm water and he sits there waving his bits at you singing “I’ve got a doodle”.
So our grown up bath had none of that (thank goodness, especially on the doodle thing).
We just lazed in the amazing cave bathroom tub, surrounded by candles sipping bubbles.
The only disturbance, when Lovely Hubby was adjusting his position and stuck his elbow in the candle. Singed skin followed by a screech and a bellow of “oooow” swiftly ensued. Funnily, my reaction was “aw man, you put out the candle” and not “are you okay baby?”
Perhaps proof that we and no longer be considered newlyweds?
4. I’ll drink if I want to
We’re normally quite restrained with our drinking these days. Maybe a glass or two with dinner. And then we normally fall asleep quite shortly after for some reason.
So, imagine the liberation when we realise that we can drink if we want to and we don’t have to worry. We can fall asleep if we want. We don’t have to drive or get taxis. And if we have too much over the evening, we can just sleep in the next morning! The elation! The wonder!
So, we start the afternoon with some lovely liquid amber by the pool. Nothing better than a cold beer on a hot day. The only thing we forget is just how hot Dubai is and that even the ice bucket melts after a half hour!
Later, we move to the pool to enjoy a cocktail at the swim up bar. By this stage, I’m starting to sway a little (I know.. total lightweight). But I also realise there’s no better place to be a bit stumbly after a couple of drinks as you can simply fall over and swim to the other side.
But you know the funny thing. When you can have something so easily, sometimes, you realise you don’t really want it.
So whilst we were free to drink ourselves into oblivion if we wanted to, what better way to ruin such a beautiful weekend. So we finished up our cocktails and headed up to the rooftop bar to enjoy a stunning desert sunset. Completely uninterrupted!
5. Massage and more sleep
I think there’s nothing better than a therapeutic massage, followed by a nice sleep.
Rarely do we get this opportunity. Normally, if one of us indulges in a massage, you get that 90 mins to yourself and then you walk out and get attacked by small people who wonder where you’ve been for so long.
It does mean that a little of the magic is a little lost.
So, we thought on our kid-free weekend, what better indulgence than to each have a massage and then collapse on a deck chair and sleep off all that bliss.
Lovely Hubby missed the memo about sleeping when you get out of the massage and snored his way through most of the second half. But still, we were both very ready for some resting by the pool after being pummeled by little Filipino ladies for a couple of hours.
What a way to while away our second afternoon of grown-up time.
6. Finishing a meal
We eat out a bit. And our kids are pretty good. Although, if you read my Barcelona story, you might think otherwise.
Nonetheless, as anyone with kids will tell you. There’s a certain amount of angst when you take young kids out for a meal. You never really know when they’re going to lose it. Many times, we have needed to exit venues early due to a screaming banshee, or we’ve had to apologise to fellow diners who have faced the wrath of an angry Chubs.
But this weekend was culinary bliss.
We ate our lunch by the pool and nothing was dropped on the ground or thrown in the pool.
At dinner time, we did the arabic buffet and were able to get as much spicy, smelly food as we wanted with no objections. Breakfast we could leisurely read the paper whilst nibbling on our eggs, all without any whining, whinging or requests to play cars in between bites.
In fact, we were so full by the end of the weekend that you almost had to roll us to the car to head home. Such a great way to end the perfect kid-free weekend!
So there you have it. 6 reasons why you should IMMEDIATELY go and book at least one night away with your special someone and enjoy a kid-free weekend.
If you are near a desert and you can do it at a stunning desert resort, even better!
And whilst this list probably sounds like the most boring weekend known to man for anyone without young kids, for those of you who have shared some of our moments along the way, you’ll know that these 6 things equal, pretty well a perfect break!
It was a hard wake up this morning to have to go back to work, drag kids out of bed, make lunches, deal with pee… all the usual stuff.
But now, I have a little moment of peace fresh in my mind I can retreat to in some of those moments.
To all the mums and dads out there, do it! You deserve it!
Have an extra cocktail for us!
Enjoy the week…